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AEAS 7 FY21 Q2 How to be an Upstander: Learn about Mental Health and Communities


Learn about Mental Health and Communities

Agrawal, Radha. (2018) Belong: Find Your People, Create Community & Live a More Connected Life. Available in print and ebook

How is it that the internet connects us to a world of people, yet so many of us feel more isolated than ever? That we have hundreds, even thousands of friends on social media, but not a single person to truly confide in? Radha Agrawal calls this “community confusion,” and in Belong she offers every reader a blueprint to find their people and build and nurture community, because connectedness, as studies show—is our key to happiness, fulfillment, and success.

Birdsong, Mia. (2020) How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community. Available in print

Through research, interviews, and stories of lived experience, How We Show Up returns us to our inherent connectedness where we find strength, safety, and support in vulnerability and generosity, in asking for help, and in being accountable. Showing up--literally and figuratively--points us toward the promise of our collective vitality and leads us to the liberated well-being we all want.

Bregman, Peter. (2018) Leading with Emotional Courage: How to Have Hard Conversations, Create Accountability, and Inspire Action on Your Most Important Work. Available in print and ebook

Each short, easy to read chapter provides real-world practices for building your emotional courage muscle, giving you grounded advice for handling difficult situations. By building the courage to say the necessary but difficult things, you become a stronger, more effective person and leader. This book guides you to speak up when others remain silent, maintain your ground in the face of uncertainty, respond productively to opposition without getting distracted, and deal with others' anger without shutting down or getting defensive.

Chaleff, Ira. (2009) The courageous follower: standing up to & for our leaders. Available in print

The updated edition includes a new chapter, “The Courage to Speak to the Hierarchy.” Today, followers can be given questionable policies and orders that come from many levels above them—even from the other side of the world. The author explores how they can respond effectively, particularly using the power now available through advances in communications technology. Everyone is a follower at least some of the time, the author strips away the passive connotations of that role and provides tools to help followers effectively partner with leaders.

Chapman, Bob. (2015) Everybody matters: the extraordinary power of caring for your people like family. Available in print

Chapman and coauthor Raj Sisodia show how any organization can reject the traumatic consequences of rolling layoffs, dehumanizing rules, and hypercompetitive cultures. Once you stop treating people like functions or costs, disengaged workers begin to share their gifts and talents toward a shared future. Uninspired workers stop feeling that their jobs have no meaning. Frustrated workers stop taking their bad days out on their spouses and kids. And everyone stops counting the minutes until it’s time to go home.

Chapman, Tom. (2019) Barber Talk: Taking Pride in Men's Mental Health. Available in print and ebook

When the author suddenly lost a friend to suicide, he knew that he wanted to do something to change the culture around men’s mental health. Through his work as a barber, he recognized how important it was to encourage men to talk to each other. He knew that if he could just help men to open up, then perhaps he could save lives. And so the 'Lions Barber Collective' was born: an international group of top barbers, all of which came together to encourage conversation and help raise awareness for the prevention of suicide.

Devine, Megan. (2017) It's Ok That You're Not Ok: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand. Available in print

Having experienced grief from both sides―as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner―the author writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, "happy" life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it.

Manne, Kate. (2020) Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women. Available in print

The author argues that male entitlement can explain a wide array of phenomena: mansplaining, the undertreatment of women’s pain, mass shootings by incels, and the idea that women are “unelectable.” Manne implicates each of us in toxic masculinity: It is not just a product of a few bad actors; it’s something we all perpetuate, conditioned as we are by the social and cultural mores of our time. The only way to combat it, she says, is to expose the flaws in our default modes of thought while enabling women to take up space, say their piece, and muster resistance to the entitled attitudes of the men around them.

Miller, Rachel W. (2020) The Art of Showing Up: How to Be There for Yourself and Your People. Available in print and in eBook

The author teaches that 'showing up' means connecting with others in a way that make them feel seen and supported. And that begins with showing up for yourself: recognizing your needs, understanding your physical and mental health, and practicing self-compassion. Only then can you better support other people; witness their joy, pain and true selves; validate their experiences; and help ease their burdens.

Parker, Priya. (2018) The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters. Available in print and in eBook

At a time when coming together is more important than ever, Parker sets forth a human-centered approach to gathering that will help everyone create meaningful, memorable experiences, large and small, for work and for play. Drawing on her expertise as a facilitator of high-powered gatherings around the world, Parker takes us inside events of all kinds to show what works, what doesn't, and why. She investigates a wide array of gatherings—conferences, meetings, a courtroom, a flash-mob party, an Arab-Israeli summer camp—and explains how simple, specific changes can invigorate any group experience.

Paterson, Randy J. (2000) The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships. Available in print and in eBook

If you've ever felt paralyzed by an imposing individual or strongly argued opposing point of view, you know that a lack of assertiveness can leave you feeling marginalized and powerless. This book contains effective, cognitive behavioral techniques to help you become more assertive. Learn how to set and maintain personal boundaries without becoming inaccessible. Become more genuine and open in relationships without fearing attack. Defend yourself when criticized, or asked to submit to unreasonable requests.

Samaran, Nora. (2019) Turn This World Inside Out: The Emergence of Nurturance Culture. Available in print and in eBook

The author presents Nurturance Culture as the opposite of rape culture and suggests how alternative models of care and accountability can move toward inverting cultures of dominance and systems of oppression. When communities are able to recognize and speak up about systemic violence, center the needs of those harmed, and hold a circle of belonging that humanizes everyone, they create a foundation of nurturance.

Stryker, Kitty. (2017) Ask: Building Consent Culture. Available in print and in eBook

Violating consent isn’t limited to sexual relationships, and our discussions around consent shouldn’t be, either. To resist rape culture, we need a consent culture—and one that is more than just reactionary. This book asks writers, journalists, and activists to examine how a society centered on consent can empower us outside the bedroom, whether it’s at the doctor’s office, interacting with law enforcement, or calling out financial abuse within radical communities.

Sutton, Robert. (2010) The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn't. Coming soon in print

Stanford University professor Robert I. Sutton builds on his acclaimed Harvard Business Review article to show you the best ways to deal with assholes, and why they can be so destructive. Practical, compassionate, and in places downright funny, this guide offers strategies on how to pinpoint and eliminate negative influences for good.